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Hypnosis as a tool for Tender Loving Care

A study was conducted on newly born orphaned children who were unfortunate not to experience their mother’s tender touch, love and care after they were born. Two groups were made; both were nursed at intensive care units. One Group (A) was exposed to being provided care that had been reduced to simple feeding and changing with a minimum of physical contact, i.e. nursing by no touch technique during administration of feed; and the other Group (B), were regularly exposed to touch as they were taken out and were held by the nurses in theirs arms, holding them close to their heart during their feeds.

The observations and results recorded were shocking as babies of the Group A which were not exposed to human touch, love or affection, shriveled and died.  Whereas Group B showed normal healthy growth, due to the experience of tender love, touch and care.  

I am sure this example gives you something to think about. Love is experienced in many ways. Let’s have a look at situations where TLC is practiced knowingly and unknowingly?

1. Parents, relatives, friends, doctors, nurses, paramedics like physiotherapists, masseurs, air hostesses, service industry people, hospitality industry, singers, musicians, artists, poets, etc.
2. Nature, greenery, mountains, lakes, forests, waterfalls, sea and rivers.
3. Home, clean good home and loving people.
4. Spas, aroma therapists, color therapists.
5. Good ambiance, star hotels, shopping malls, cinema halls, soft cushions, clothes made up of silk or velvet, soft toys, etc.
6. Pets, cats, dogs, horses, rabbits, etc.
7. Gifts.

In short, TLC can be experienced whenever an external stimulus induces a feel good sensation within you by touch or love or affection, kindness, sympathy, or cool breeze or through someone who makes you feel important or worthy. A touch, hug, kiss, a gentle pat or a warm hand shake are some of the examples of touch, to which our body immediately responds within one upon hundredth of a million second as the nerves pass this electric pulse as a message to our brain.

A baby will watch your facial expressions and mannerisms in search of loving recognition. A baby needs both eye contact and human touch to be able to grow properly. We look for love from an early age, and continue to do so through our lives in its many different manifestations, both physical and emotional. How many different emotions can you think of at this moment that you have experienced in your life? Where did all of these emotions come from? Were we taught to feel most of what we feel or were we born with these feelings? Are these feelings natural and all humans experience them? Since its birth the baby is loved and appreciated by everyone around it. Therefore, the baby sleeps in bliss! It is receiving TLC in plenty and often.

However as a child grows, if he or she is criticized, condemned, scolded, punished, beaten up, made to feel inferior, not loved or cared for, the child becomes miserable and depressed. They forget to love and lack self love.  

Many permutations and combinations of positive and negative trends coexist in many of us; so let us talk about grown ups, adults and senior citizens who are leading a life without TLC in our society. Is having food, shelter and clothes sufficient to lead a fulfilled life? Or it’s just enough to survive?  Everyone wants, desires and needs a happy and satisfied life where there is a sufficient flow of love and care. Here, it is important to understand that there are two kinds of love; one that is driven by needs, approval and conformity, in reality this is NOT love, it is just an arrangement or simply an agreement.  This is the love that is being promoted by most of us.

Real love is selfless, where you give in completely without a need to be reciprocated, without being needy or expecting approval. Do we ever bother to give and take this simple TLC which happens to be the most important thing in life? Few lucky people get to experience this kind of love with other human beings, whether for a short period of time or for a lifetime.  People who have experienced this form of love are the most blessed, luckiest and wealthiest in true sense.

The solution is to learn to feel love more often. The greatest challenge for most is that love is not easy to show or even experience. It is almost as though to experience love, we need to get past the fear of feeling love. This sounds contradictory at first, but it is what we do. Yet to experience love means we will have no fear. How ironic it is to battle fear to feel love and by feeling love we would eliminate fear without a struggle. Could we remove most fears by learning to love?

Hypnosis and TLC or Tender, Love, and Care therapy is the most simple available tool to fulfill this need of love for our society. I would now like to introduce you to a way to feel love easily without fear. It is available to all of us at any time through hypnosis. Hypnosis allows one to access their subconscious mind, the part where these deep rooted beliefs and expectations are stored. With hypnosis you can build a feeling of confidence and comfort and instill a greater feeling of love into your life for the following simple reasons.

1. It changes the body chemistry instantly in a positive way.
2. It is good.
3. It heals.
4. It gives a sense of belonging.
5. It inspires and motivates you.
6. It makes you and others happy.
7. It costs nothing or minimal.
8. It gives you a high and you start liking and loving yourself which is required to feel good about yourself.

When you are in the hypnotic state, you will notice that there is a feeling of calm, peace, clarity, and even a feeling of love. Yes, that’s right. When we are hypnotized, we feel loved!  All you have to do is use your imagination and memory and go to a time when you felt loved. It could be by a parent, a partner or a special friend. It could even be when you were a child or later in life. It doesn’t matter when, just let your memory go to the moment you recall feeling loved. When one gets TLC therapy, the mind responds to bodily and external stimuli. This is outside in approach which is great for us.

When we are hypnotized, we are feeling loved. When we feel loved, anything is possible. This could be with self hypnosis or being hypnotized by another. The feeling of being in that hypnotic state is definitely much like being loved. The power of love is readily available every time you are hypnotized. I am sure that this explanation gives you something to ponder on! With hypnosis as a tool for TLC to your mind, mental trauma, negativity stress can be handled by reprogramming your sub-conscious mind with positive suggestions. It can implant and create new software for you and transform you gently into a loving kind individual. This new form of energy can be the constant supply for the love and care that we all crave for. According to me, this is the best possible use of hypnosis in this stressful and competitive world. It is the best way to fulfill needs of the society at the core level as positive suggestions to increase concentration, confidence, health, wealth, happiness; achieving goals are also given along with suggestions for loving and liking yourself. The entire above aforesaid suggestions are  implanted in the sub-conscious by taking the person to Alpha state of mind in which his sub-conscious mind is activated and  where the conscious mind is put  off-duty for a while.

One can avail TLC hypnosis from an experienced trained hypnotherapist or one can learn self hypnosis\ to have control in one’s hands and create one’s own software. As a result of regular use of your hypnosis practice, you will immediately find that as you love yourself, it will become easier for you to consistently engage in actions that enable you to succeed at all your goals. Self-loving behavior enables you to sleep soundly at night and to awaken feeling confident and proud. Self-love works like a natural eraser to false hunger. It acts upon the body more favorably than any anti-depressant. Self-love erases brain fog. It helps you to think clearly, and to act in line with your own highest good.

If you can learn to recognize the feelings of being hypnotized and compare them with the feelings of being loved, then you have just learned another great skill with hypnosis. You have learned to create the feelings of love without the fears that may have been associated with love. If you learn the feelings of love, then more is possible in your life. You gain a new found power. Remember, fears can inhibit or restrict you from what you want in life. Love never restricts you from anything. Are you lacking TLC in your life?  Stop fuming and fretting and save your valuable time and money and learn self hypnosis/hypnosis to get continuous fountain of this potent never ending emotion through out your life. Just go for it.

 Make Unconditional Love your next goal!!!!

By: Dr. Asha Joshi
M.D., D.A. Hypno Therapist and N.L.P. Trainer
+91 92241-99204, +91 93710-53990